Direct victim blaming shocks us. I would like to believe that we have advanced as a society from a culture where women were accused of provoking violence or rape.
However, often we blame ourselves when we something goes wrong in a relationship: “My partner broke up with me because I gained weight” / “I didn’t get the job, because I failed the interview”. The leitmotif is “I am not good enough”.
You can argue that on the surface, it might be true, a person can leave because of any reason including a change of the partner’s appearance, candidates are supposed to be brilliant on their interview and so on. It might be accurate, but the approach is a simplification, the interactions between people are more complicated than they seem.
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